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Due to jealousy, we cannot see the top ranker's positives and tend to focus on his negatives. We have no right to think that being a top ranker he has an egoistic attitude because our negativities will not harm him but only create obstacles for us. On the contrary we should appreciate the hard work he must be putting in, to achieve first rank. Let us see what Gnani say's......

Questioner: Niruma, why do we feel that the top ranker of our class is egoistic?

Niruma: It is because of our own jealousy. What rank do you get?

Questioner: I stand third or fourth in class.

Niruma: Then won't those scoring less than you have a feeling that you too are egoistic? That's how it is normally. Due to jealousy, we cannot see the top ranker's positives and tend to focus on his negatives. We have no right to think that being a top ranker he has an egoistic attitude because our negativities will not harm him but only create obstacles for us. On the contrary we should appreciate the hard work he must be putting in, to achieve first rank.

Questioner: When I don't score top rank in class, my mom insists that it is due to my insincerity. But in my opinion, I have put in my best efforts. Then of the two, whose view do you think is correct?

Jealousy Inner

Niruma: Both of you are correct. Neither of you is wrong by your individual view points. Every mother feels that her child should be a topper and won't feel satisfied until he is Number One. Due to this very thinking she is correct on her part, just as you are correct on your part. Henceforth if mummy questions you why you have not topped the class, you must say, “Mummy, please bless me that I may top the class next time round.”

Questioner: When my mom insists on me getting the first rank, isn't she right                         because it is eventually for my good?

Niruma: Yes, she is insisting for your good after all.

Questioner: Then why do I feel so strongly that she is wrong and I am right?

Niruma: Whatever mummy insists on is always for our own good. Like when she says be sincere in your studies, don't watch T.V. for too long as it will spoil your vision, don't fight with your younger sister, and so on, who stands to benefit, mom or you?

Questioner: Me of course.

Niruma: Then tell me, what does she stand to gain out of it? The moment we realize that what she says is for our own good, we will not have any issues. But we do not want to do as she says. Instead, we tend to be obstinate and follow our own interests like watching T.V. and playing. All these problems are simply due to our lack of interest in studies and more interest in TV and playing games.